by Dena Dyer @denajdyer
After He had sent the crowds away, He went up on the mountain by Himself to pray; and when it was evening, He was there alone. Matthew 14:23 NASB
We are not superheroes, so why do we act like we are? Solitude replenishes and refreshes us. It’s a necessary, and often overlooked, facet of a grace-full life. My friends and I laugh about it, but it’s sad: none of us make time to be alone anymore. We’re too busy driving our kids to soccer practice, working outside the home, and helping with church activities. There’s simply no time for recreation or rest. And what’s even sadder—we often feel like we’re irreplaceable and indestructible.
I’ve decided I don’t want to postpone balance or rest any longer. I know what it does to my body and soul when I do.
I’ve begun to realize that only cats have nine lives. We have but one. And it is a super-myth that you can be a superwoman. In fact, you can do some of it, and have some of it done, but if you try to do it all, you’ll be done in.
And since you are only one person, take care of yourself! Maybe that will mean scheduling a sitter so you can have some time alone. Perhaps you can trade child care with a friend for a couple of hours a week—delicious hours in which you do something for yourself, and not for your kids or hubby. Or maybe you’ll decide to take up a new hobby and have your husband take over tending the home fires one night a week. Only you can decide what kind of solitude you need to replenish your mind and soul.
Jesus is our model in this (as in all things). He often went off by Himself to pray and be alone with God the Father. If the perfect Savior of the world needed time with His Heavenly Father, how much more do we need it?!
I like what Pearl S. Buck once said: “I love people. I love my family, my children. . .but inside myself is a place where I live all alone, and that’s where you renew your springs that never dry up.”
So my challenge to you is to say no to some less-important things once in a while, so that you can say yes to yourself. Periodically, let God fill your empty reservoir in the solace of solitude.
I think you’ll be super-glad you did.
This blog is excerpted from Dena’s book, Grace for the Race: Meditations for Busy Moms, which is available as an e-book from online retailers.
About the author: Dena Dyer is an award-winning author, speaker, and non-profit leader. She loves encouraging hurting, harried women with humor and hope. You can find her on Instagram or Facebook, or at her website.
Dena’s book, Wounded Women of the Bible, proves that God’s ntention to heal is His delight. Offering more than pat affirmations or vicarious shoulders to cry on, you will find the emotions and injuries that women of all ages have in common.
Join the conversation: How do you manage to sneak in time alone?