by Lori Vober
On the day that I suffered my massive stroke at age twenty-nine, the first person I called was my husband, and the second phone call was to my parents. I was the office manager at our church, having just transitioned to that position three weeks prior from a corporate career. My parents had recently moved to be closer to us and were located only five minutes from the church. I saw my mom before I lost consciousness that day. I woke up seventeen days later from a drug induced coma, paralyzed on the left side from the stroke. I spent a total of two months in the hospital and went through two brain surgeries. During that time, my mom was the one person who rarely left my side.
A few months after my discharge, my husband lost his job. We relocated to Arizona. I am an only child, so my parents decided to move with us. Soon after our move, my brain started interacting with the scar tissue and blood deposits from the stroke, causing seizures. My mom took care of me while my husband was at work so that I was not alone. I’m independent by nature, so her attentiveness was often difficult. But, I will always be grateful for her love, protection, and dedication during that difficult time.
Eight years’ post-stroke and many years of dedicated therapy later, my husband and I decided to embark on an adoption journey to start our family. We adopted a sibling group of three—ages six, eight, and ten, at the time. Now that I am a Mom myself, I can understand the helpless feeling I would also feel if I were to go through what my mom went through with me.
When I think of a mother’s love in Scripture, there are many stories we could look at. I immediately think of Moses and how his mom, in order to protect his life, placed her three month old son in a basket in the reeds beside the river. It had to have been the most helpless feeling to leave him and walk away. Then I think of Mary, Jesus’s mother. Although she knew from the beginning who he was, she raised him from birth. On the day of his death on the cross, she was helpless to do anything. She could only stand there with the others and watch her beloved son die.
As moms, there times when we are helpless, and all we can do is continue to love.
Some of us have good relationships with our moms, others rocky ones, or maybe they have now passed on. If you have a relationship with your mom or a mom-mentor figure in your life, I encourage you to let them know how much they mean to you. Sometimes things get said along the way and although we never forget, we always can love and forgive. Life is too short to neglect those relationships. Nurturing a great connection is so important.
“Honor her for all that her hands have done, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.” Proverbs 31:31 NIV
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About the author: Lori suffered an intracerebral hemorrhagic stroke at age twenty-nine, and then developed epilepsy due to the stroke. She is a walking miracle, and felt called to share her story, and her journey of faith and perseverance, to encourage others.
Lori believes God has a plan for each of us, but life is about choices! Even with her difficulties, she was able to become an adoptive Mom of a sibling group of three. She just published her first book through Trilogy Publishing titled, “CHOICES: When You Are Faced with a Challenge, What Choice Will You Make?” Lori and her husband, Dainis, have been happily married for twenty-four years and reside in Goodyear, Arizona. Her website is www.lorivober.com.
Join the conversation: When have you felt helpless as a mom?