by Tammy Whitehurst

There comes a time when we are done. Done with crying. Done with anger. Done with bitterness. We are done. Flat out…..DONE.

We cannot afford to waste our days. Life is short. Spinning our wheels and waking up every day to a new day, but never in a new way must cease.

Yes, the unthinkable happened. It was understandable to grieve. To cry. To weep and wail. I have walked in those shoes and slid on the slippery slope of falling flat on my face.

Finally, one day I walked the path of giving the situation to God because I could not handle it anymore. My heart and flesh cried out for God to rescue me from the heartbreak and broken relationship.

The moment we surrender it all, He can take control and begin to work things out like we never imagined. We may never understand why something happened, but we can understand that we have a MESSiah for every single one of life’s messes, for every heartbreak, and every time we have felt like we were finished. He will cover us in peace when we seek His face.

Here is what I had to learn. Time flies and it does not return. Years pass and we never get them back. Enough precious time has been wasted.

We cannot wait all of our lives for something that might never happen. We can prevail over setbacks and emotional pain. We can move past the disbelief. The distress.

I don’t know what you’re going through today, but I do know this: God has a plan to bring you above water again. You will not drown when He is the rescuer. It might not be what you expected, but it can be more than you ever imagined.

Begin to notice the sunsets again, the beauty of a sunrise, the sound of laughter, the chirping of birds and the fragrance of a rose. Hold up the white flag of surrender and worship while you wait for God to unravel the tangled up mess. Surrender all the pain and live life again.

It’s past time to seek the sunshine, plan the vacation, a day with friends, or a trip to the coffee shop. Open the doors once again and invite people for dinner. Don’t just seize those moments, squeeze those moments!

If we wait for the perfect time to begin living again, we might wait so long we run out of time. It is never too late for a new beginning.

Battered and wounded troops—it’s way past time–let’s roll. Forward March!

For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength. Philippians 4:13 NLT

This article is brought to you by the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association (AWSA).

About the author: As an author, blogger, and full time speaker, Tammy encourages and challenges audiences to live life kicked up a notch. She is the co-owner of the Christian Communicators Conference. She struggles like the rest of us with dust, dog hair, cellulite, junk drawers, and wrinkles. Find out more at, or on Facebook and YouTube.

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3 thoughts on “DONE

  1. Oh how I wished I had screamed DONE years ago and gave my issues with my mom and my weight to God, BUT i was just not strong enough those many years ago to do that. You see I grabbed ahold of that issue to “control” it because I had no control over most of my life so when I realized I could control something (food) oh boy I grabbed ahold of that control and ran with it. So much so I was probably close to fulfilling my moms worst fear. Me dyeing before her. She had me living half in a grave all of my adult life anyway. Well I almost fell the rest of the way in because I felt I needed to “control” that one area she could not. But she died before me and after her death I let go and gave that issue to God. Oh and the grave mom had dug for me and had me living half way in it, God filled that hole up and it is no longer there. Thank You Jesus!


  2. Tammy, I loved you writing “We cannot wait all of our lives for something that might never happen.” Right now as I’m in a kind of waiting room for God’s work, I’m seeing how I try to imagine how it’s going to be resolved. But that’s a kind of “waiting for something that might never happen.” How much better to surrender to whatever God might do. Thank you, Tammy, for helping me to process this.


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