The Proverbs 31 Woman: Pipe Dream or Personal Challenge?

by Lee Ann Mancini

The beautiful description of a virtuous woman laid out in Proverbs 31:10-31 sounds totally unattainable. She is the perfect wife, has her own business, plants a vineyard, is busy day and night, gives to the poor, makes and sells clothing, has a great sense of humor, is wise and loving, never says anything ugly, her children adore her and grow up to be awesome.

Good grief!  I am exhausted just reading those verses. There are many times when I feel like a Marvel Comics superhero to just survive until bedtime. Forget about being winsome and industrious and wise and generous—on those days, sanity is my highest goal. 

When life feels messy even chaotic, when making a simple decision is nearly impossible, or remembering where you put your cell phone makes you want to cry, being a Proverbs 31 woman is more of a pipe dream than a realistic challenge. Yet our hearts yearn to be that virtuous, awe-inspiring woman who is adored by her children, loved and respected by her husband, and admired by those who know her. 

From where did this How-to-Be-a-Perfect-Woman list in the Bible come?  Not surprisingly, King Lemuel’s mother—like all of us mothers of sons—wanted him to choose a wife wisely. So, she provided him with her version of a modern-day “Godly Woman Infographic.”  When we look through that checklist of perfection, all of us can find things that we do well. And we certainly have no problem recognizing those things we wish we did better or more consistently—or even at all.  But how can we ever attain the lofty goal of becoming this Proverbs 31 virtuous woman? What is God telling us He wants from us in this Scripture passage?

We are loved and cherished by an amazing Heavenly Father. He wants us to cling to Him for everything we need. He wants us to trust Him to provide that. He wants us to believe He has our best interests at heart. God wants us to live in the knowledge that He has a specific plan and purpose for our lives and will walk with us every step of the way. When we do that, we can recognize that being a virtuous woman means being a woman who loves God and seeks to serve Him in all that we do. In ALL that we do: cooking, cleaning, working, playing, raising kids, caring, loving, forgiving, learning, resting, praying, and worshiping Him. When we live out Matthew 22:37, becoming a Proverbs 31 virtuous woman is no longer a pipe dream or a personal challenge, it is who we become through the perfect and faithful love and grace of Almighty God. 

“Jesus said to him, ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’”  Matthew 22:37 (NET)

This article is brought to you by the Advanced Writers and Speakers Association (AWSA).

About the author:  Lee Ann Mancini is an adjunct professor at South Florida Bible College and Theological Seminary. She is the executive producer of the Sea Kids animation series that helps children to build a strong foundation in Jesus.

Lee Ann’s books, The Sea Kids series, has won over 25 awards, and is a favorite among teachers, parents, and especially children! Her podcast, Raising Christian Kids, is available on all major platforms. Her 10 -15- minute podcast will empower and equip all who are raising the next generation to have a strong foundation in Christ.

 Join the conversation: To what characteristics of the Proverbs 31 woman do you relate?

3 thoughts on “The Proverbs 31 Woman: Pipe Dream or Personal Challenge?

  1. Once someone explained that the Proverbs 31 “woman” was a lifetime tribute, not a woman’s daily itinerary, I wasn’t as intimidated. Great blog!

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  2. I use to not like reading Proverbs 31 because I knew I would never be “her”. But like Terri said above once I learned it was a tribute/list of who her son should look for and not someone’s daily life I had a new view of who the Proverbs 31 woman was.

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