by Monica Schmelter @monicaschmelter
I’ve spent a lot of my life in hiding. I try to mask my insecurities, faults and shortcomings. Quite honestly, it’s grown to be a heavy load.
Can you relate?
I find I hide because I fear rejection or judgment. What makes you want to hide? Whatever the case hiding is nothing new. Adam and Eve hid because of sin. Gideon hid out of fear of the enemy.
One day, when my “if people really knew the truth about me” fears were overwhelming me, I happened on these Scriptures in the book of Colossians.
“You were dead because of your sins and because your sinful nature was not yet cut away. Then God made you alive with Christ, for he forgave all our sins. He canceled the record of the charges against us and took it away by nailing it to the cross. In this way, he disarmed the spiritual rulers and authorities. He shamed them publicly by his victory over them on the cross (Colossians 2:13-15 NLT).
Jesus willingly took our wrongs and wiped clean all records of them. He nailed them to the cross and utterly obliterated them. By doing this, He disarmed and shamed the spiritual rulers and authorities with His victory on the cross.
Our enemy, Satan, and his army of fallen angels have been disarmed. They are deprived of power over us. The Cross is our safe place. The cross beckons us out of hiding into His love and into the Community of faith. With the cross as our safe place, we can enjoy an honest relationship with Jesus Christ – and with one another.
With the cross as our safe place we hear “You don’t have to hide anymore.” All those fears, like God can’t forgive me or what will people think dissipate at the cross.
I can almost hear some of you saying yes, I can accept the cross as my safe place, but the whole community of faith thing? That is another matter. I struggle with that as well. Take a look at the truths below for help in living in community and building healthy relationships.
Trust Christ Completely
He is the only One who will never let us down. When Christ is our anchor, our ship does not sink when people disappoint us.
Realign Your Expectations of People
When we lean into Christ fully our expectations of people are realigned. This means we are free to enjoy community in a brand-new way. No longer do we rely on people to fully meet our needs, affirm our value and strengthen our faith.
Develop Relationships Over Time
You can learn a lot by listening to what is said, as well as what is not said. It takes time to build rapport, confidence, and trust. It isn’t wise to trust and bear our deepest issues to everyone, but there are safe people in this world. Look for and be a safe, trustworthy person. None of us were meant to do life alone.
The next time you find yourself wanting to do life alone – or go into hiding for fear of judgment or rejection, take a moment to reflect on the Cross as your Safe Place – and remember You don’t have to Hide anymore.
About the author: Monica Schmelter is the host of CTN’s daily television show Bridges and also the General Manager of WHTN, Nashville TN. Bridges airs in over 50 Million Homes and also airs on ROKU. To learn more, go to monicaschmelter.com.
Got a junk drawer? Ever find yourself stuffing stray items in there without thinking? Monica’s book, Messy to Meaningful, will help you sift through and sort out the unnecessary spiritual things weighing you down. Stop holding on to so much junk that you can’t fit in the good things the Lord is calling you to. Monica and co-authors Rhonda and Kaley Rhea will take you through your junk drawer and make you laugh along the way. Find yourself some beautiful…free.
Join the conversation: Are you spending your life in hiding? What keeps you there?