Peeling Off the Apathy Suit

by Debora M. Coty

I answered the maddeningly persistent phone with a poopy-diapered toddler shimmying up my leg (you don’t even want to know about the trail she was leaving), a preschooler wailing about his lost Legos (which I – ouch – found), a pot overflowing on the stove, and a dog howling to visit his fave tree.

I could barely hear the bill collector on the other end of the line.

Okay, I’d had it! Done. Epic fail. I was mom-mom-mom-mom’ed out. I felt myself tumbling face first into the joy-sucking dully-funks.

You know the dully-funk pit all too well, girlfriend – it’s that black hole, when our minds fog, emotions go numb, eyes glaze over, and we move like autotrons in a perpetual state of spiritual and emotional dullness.

A mom-ed out woman can spend days, weeks, even years in the joy-sucking dully-funks, functioning, going through the motions of taking care of her family, but not really living. She’s barely eking by, not experiencing the abundant life Jesus promised to believers in John 10:10 (NKJV): “I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.”

The way I see it, the abundant life is like a Snickers bar – rich and satisfying. Is that how you’d describe your everyday life? If you’re like me, you probably have an occasional rapturously abundant moment, but that feeling is hard to sustain. Why?

Because chronic fatigue tries to encase us in a rubber suit of apathy, whispering, “This will keep you safe. You can’t be hurt if you don’t care.” So in self-protection mode, we muffle the barrage of emotions. We don’t allow ourselves to feel.

 But beware, my friend! That rubber suit will block Jesus-joy too. And happiness. And the exhilaration of feeling Papa God’s pleasure in you – His beloved daughter.

Apathy is a Son-block that numbs you to the wonder, excitement, and joy of living … the abundant life Jesus offers. And that’s a cocoon none of us wants to inhabit.

So how do we peel away the rubber suit of apathy?

I call it the Bread Dough Rule. In the same way dough rises to fill whatever size bowl it’s placed in, we fill our daily to-do bowl up to the brim, whether it’s salad bowl size or a mega mixing bowl.

So start with a pudding cup. Limit your must-dos today to three major items. You know good and well that the Bread Dough Rule will swell your list and overflow that tiny cup as the day progresses, but by starting small, you can afford unforeseen expansion, hair-ripping interruptions, and even a Lego or two embedded in your heel.

Hey, when your cup runneth over, sip from the saucer!

“We can make our plans, but the LORD determines our steps.” Proverbs 16:9, NLT

(Excerpt was taken from Too Blessed to be Stressed for Moms by Debora M. Coty with permission from Barbour Publishing.)

debora-coty-250x250About the Author: Debora M. Coty lives, loves, and laughs in central Florida with her longsuffering husband Chuck. Debora is a popular speaker and award-winning author of over 40 inspirational books, including the bestselling Too Blessed to be Stressed series. Her newest release, Too Blessed to be Stressed for Moms, hits booksellers September 1. Join Deb’s fun-loving community of BFFs (Blessed Friends Forever) at

Join the conversation: How do you move yourself out of the joy-sucking dully-funks?

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