Whom Do You Fear?

by Cindi McMenamin

It occurred to me, as I was writing my book, Drama Free, that most of the drama we experience in life is a result of fearing people more than we fear God.

For instance, I was recently stressed out because someone was believing something about me that wasn’t true. But did I really fear what people thought more than I feared the God who had my back and could clear my name?

The Bible tells us “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom….” (Psalm 111:10, NASB). To fear God is to have a wholesome dread of ever displeasing the Lord. It implies love, reverence, and caring more about what God thinks of us than what others might think.

I find that verse in the Psalms interesting because I’ve come to realize the opposite of wisdom is drama. When we exercise wisdom, we use discretion and we don’t make a scene. When we demonstrate wisdom, we don’t bring distress to others. When we display wisdom, we are not putting ourselves on display.  If fearing the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, which negates drama, then fearing anything other than God is likely to trigger drama.

In my own life, I find that, instead of fearing God, I can sometimes fear:

  • being misunderstood
  • being treated unfairly
  • being embarrassed (by appearing weak or incapable)
  • being rejected
  • being in a situation where I am not in control. (My daughter has a fear of flying because she fears not being in control. And let me tell you, there can be drama on the airplane because of it!)

Sometimes we simply fear the worst. That is still a fear of something other than God. It is giving more power to what we fear than to God, who can handle those concerning things.

In Exodus 14:14 we are told: “The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” (NIV) That is one capable God, able to do far more than our fears, worries or drama can accomplish.

The more you and I get to know who God is and what He is capable of, the more our worries, fears, and freak-outs can be stilled. We can be full of drama, or full of trust in an all-capable God. I know which one I want to be. Don’t you?

View More: http://chelseamariephoto.pass.us/cindiAbout the Author: Cindi McMenamin is a national speaker and award-winning author who helps women and couples strengthen their relationship with God and others. She is the author of 16 books including, Drama Free: Finding Peace When Emotions Overwhelm You. For more on her resources to strengthen your soul, marriage, and parenting, see her website: www.StrengthForTheSoul.com.

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14 thoughts on “Whom Do You Fear?

  1. Yes, I find myself filled with fear and drama when others think my intentions are not true. I need to focus on God and let those fears go.


  2. One of the joys of becoming more seasoned is caring less about the opinions of others. Freaking out is not a fruit of the Spirit. We do not live in a drama free society. Being peaceful and confident in whose we are keeps us grounded in His truth. Standing on His firm foundation, I’m free to be me and free to let you be you. Freedom rocks!

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  3. God’s timing is perfect! I desperately needed this devotional TODAY! I’m on my way this morning to my six month post-cancer checkup! Thank you for helping me to still my heart, trust God, and conquer fear!


  4. this is a timely reminder for me. You can think you are doing better in this regard and then see new layers.


  5. Oh how this spoke to me today. I am studying the Psalms and am in the chapters about wisdom. I live so often with so much fear and I need to completely give it to Him and let it go because it truly brings me down. I am a people pleaser and it backfired BIG time so I feel isolated and living in fear of running into that person out and about. I am thankful that God understands and is there to show me He cares and loves me and will give me the wisdom I need to carry on and serve Him.


  6. What a useful definition of wise behavior! Very insightful! That list of fears really hit the nail on the head for me. It’s where I struggle most. Sheri

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  7. This is definitely one of my challenges. I connected it even today with not wanting to feel weak or people see me as weak. God led me into a time of repentance and healing. I’m anticipating that He will continue to reveal the underlying reasons for this kind of people pleasing. Thanks for sharing, Cindi!, you added to my understanding.


  8. Good word! Being a people pleaser can be so difficult. I’m guilty of being that person. God help us all to be women who please God.


  9. Thank you for reminder of how capable God is in overcoming all our troubles. I’m going through some tough times now that are leading to big life changing decisions. God is showing me how capable he is and He’s asking me to trust Him in it. It is knowing he’s in control that stops us freaking out and brings about peace.


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